It's probably not a surprise and more likely proven in research, but I recently noticed personally that adapting to change is easier with a positive mind. We moved to Delft about a week ago and I was very much looking forward to living in this city. And I probably should stress the "very much" here, for the purpose of this posting. On the other hand, I knew the house we're moving in is 'good enough' for the rental period, but it's not a house I would buy. So for the house, I knew there is better out there that we need to find (and we'll use the year of renting to find a perfect home).
After one week I noticed how happy it makes me feel walking around in Delft. I can't get enough of looking at the old houses, the churches, square and the small stores (boutiques). Adapting to living in Delft didn't take long for me, I enjoy it more than Waterloo (aka "Boring Waterloo").
Getting used to the house and calling it 'home' will take a bit longer. It's awkward to live in a new place filled with another person's furniture (we're renting a furnished apartment). I'm not complaining, it's just an observation that I feel less comfortable in the house than in the city.
This all made me think that it probably had to do with the mindset at the time of moving: positive about Delft, so-so about the new home. So did it become a self-fulfilling prophecy that I like the city and less so the house? I think the (positive) mindset influenced the way I looked at the change. More general, if people look forward to a change they will overcome barriers easier, I think, than those who resist the change.
To conclude for myself, I need to develop a positive view of the new house and then all will be fine! And when our furniture arrives, everything is perfect.
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